Friday, June 7, 2013

Primary Elections Are Over, Not So the Bickering?

Primary elections in Plainfield are over but reading other blogs' comments one needs to wonder if there is such a thing as "sore winners", is there such a thing?

While there seems to had been anxiety about Adrian Mapp's successful primary candidacy given Sharon Robinson-Briggs' circle of supporters if there is a time to show the desire to unite Plainfield, then the time is now when those who lost the election are hurt by the loss.  What good does it make Plainfield to have those who support Adrian Mapp express ill comments against those who support Sharon Robinson-Briggs?  Wouldn't this just be a continuation of what we have had, a divided community, for the past several years?

When Adrian Mapp was elected as our democratic candidate for the mayoral general election coming this November, in my opinion, we elected the hope for unity, the hope for a better Plainfield.  This hope remains as Adrian Mapp offers the hope to raise professional expectations for Plainfield's city hall administration.  But city hall and the council are just one part of the equation that make up Plainfield and it really is the divided democratic party that has been hurting Plainfield.  Let's us hope that those who support Adrian Mapp do not become the next divisive line that halt Plainfield's much needed  unity.

I encourage those who support Adrian Mapp to show, even to fake, a much more needed friendly attitude to those who opposed Adrian Mapp.  I also encourage my fellow bloggers to analyze the content of those comments that are being published and decide whether the content really needs to be published or not.

How sad that Adrian Mapp's victory is already being used as a continuation of the long bickering that has hold Plainfield back.  This is definitively not what we picked Adrian Mapp for.

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

question???? isn't having a block party in Plainfield a bad idea? Can you get it stopped, or too late now?

Anonymous said...

I don't know where you've been, but everyone on Mapp's team I see and talk to post-election is being gracious.

Maria Pellum, Plainfield Resident said...

6:15,

A block party is fun! Why stop it? Join it and have fun!!!

9:29,

Have you read the comments and posts on the other blogs? Maybe "gracious" is lost as soon as people hide behind a screen? Then again, bloggers are just as responsible for setting the tone as they allow bickering to go on and on. If unity is desired then someone will have to act the grown up part. Who will that be? Thanks!

Anonymous said...

I dunno, but it seems your post claiming bloggers have a responsibility to filter comments in order to promote unity has merrit. But isn't doing so by blogging about it creating divide as well? Where and when does the discussion start and end? Perhaps you should have reached out to plaintalker s author in person? You are quilty of doing exactly what you are accusing them of.

Maria Pellum, Plainfield Resident said...

1:04,

Thanks for the comment. The bloggers' responsibility regarding comments is something that has been talked about not only with Plaintalker but with all other public blogs as well, but, each one of us make the last decision in our blogs at the end of the day. Each of us have our own distinct way to see comments and I respect other bloggers' choices but that doesn't stop me, neither it should stop anyone, from expressing an opinion on how public comments can be felt by those of us who are reading. Unity doesn't come from a blogger - a blogger can only edit the comments- unity comes from the efforts that people make when they press themselves to deal in a graceful, political, manner with those they disagree with, or worst, dislike. Thanks!

Susan Lattimore Jackson said...

Well written and you make a great point. There should be grace in winning and losing. I wish that more people shared, that which was once the norm; Respect for each other. Thank you for your thoughts and everyone should remember that when you point your finger at someone there are three fingers pointing back at you. Hopefully, Plainfield will rebloom, just like Shakespeare's garden.

Bob said...

Maria,

This is such clap-trap. Adrain Mapp invited everyone from Sharon's supporters to others to join him and bring Plainfield together. You were so busy with your flowers during the election, I wonder why you say anything now. Are you an under cover Sharon supporter? If so, be proud of who you are. I know you've lost a great deal of credibility with me. Quiet all this time, just to be wrongly negative now.

Bob Bolmer

Maria Pellum, Plainfield Resident said...

Bob,

Do you ever read what you write before you hit the "publish" key? Really. Nowhere do I say about Adrian being the one making the ill comments, if anything some of his supporters could learn a great deal about graciousness from him. As far as calling me an "undercover Sharon supporter", well, as far as I know I have never had to go undercover to express my feelings and opinions. But if you want to find out who did I support this election, how about you do your homework and check the petitions from all the candidates to see who got my support in the form of a valid signature in one of his petition sheets. You just don't seem to get it that in order to move Plainfield we must unite despite our differences and that harsh attitudes and personal attacks are really not the way to move the city forward. You, as our representative, could really use a less abrasive tone and work towards uniting your district, doing so would be the best way to honor all that Adrian Mapp stands for. Think about it Bob.

Rich Sudol said...

Bob, I must agree with Maria on this as someone in your district who also signed you petition alot of your comments are always negative. There is nothing wrong with having pride in your candidate but badmouthing the opposition only takes away from what you are trying to accomplish. I have lived here for 4 years and have not agreed with everything that Sharon has done but she is the mayor as voted for by the people and that deserves respect weather you agree or don't. Instead of badmouthing her I became involved, I went to HPC meetings, I went to council meetings, i brought up my concerns and some of those concerns have been addressed in a positive way. Being negative is easy it takes time and effort to be involved but that is what makes change. I support Mapp and made my voice heard when I voted and ill be just involved as I was before, you need to focus on getting more people involved in your district and being less negative about opinions other than you own. Just remember that we may not all have the same opinion of whats best but with some effort we can all work together to make things better for all of us.

Rob said...

LOL... Maria... Oh my dear Maria.. Thank you for delivering that little dose of humility and shame to Bob who's only repeated skill is proving how little he knows unless he is told to by his bosses.
How ever are you going to get through your days without having Bob's credibility on your side?? And speaking of secret Sharon supporters, I too am proud of Bob at having supported Sharon like a good little soldier he was told to be... like Dottie.
C'mon Bob.... you still haven't told us how many times you voted for Sharon...1x or 2x ?? ( Skip the primaries..just give us the general election count )

Bob said...

If I misunderstood, I apologize. Adrian did invite everyone to help rebuild Plainfield. There has not been much to be positive about the past seven years, I hope the future is much brighter for Plainfield. We need hope in Plainfield.

Anonymous said...

Maria, Are you talking about the ONE incident regarding Rebecca's account of her encounter (or lack thereof) with the mayor?

I did not see you at Mapp's headquarters when there was a win, and everyone celebrated. I have not seen you at any event where there were both Sharon and Mapp supporters, and the atmosphere was cordial and civil.

I am not sure if you are well intentioned, or just stirring the pot.

I agree that putting our heads in the sand is not the way to move Plainfield forward. However, not representing things in a true light does not help either.

Hope to see you involved in the city.

Maria Pellum, Plainfield Resident said...

Rob,

Let's have lunch!

Bob,

No apologies needed. Thanks!

10:44,

Gee! I am speechless and don't know what to say. Thanks!

Dottie Gutenkauf said...

To Rob: I don't know if you read my blog (probably not) but I posted my endorsement of Adrian Mapp early on. And on May 31, the Courier published my letter to the editor doing the same thing. (Perhaps you don't read the Courier either.) Nobody "told" me to do either of these things, and believe me, nobody needed to.